Monday 7 May 2018

No surprise to those who’ve been there: Losing a pet can hurt more than losing a fellow human

a post by Brandon A. Weber for the Big Think blog

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There are a number of reasons the death of a pet is as hard as – or sometimes, even worse than – losing a human.

Pets are increasingly such close family members because we spend every day, sometimes all day, with them and, especially in their later years, we are the caregivers and providers. And they are frequently our alarm clocks, as well.

Much of the time, it’s the first experience we have with a close death; even children who grow up with pets will likely see them pass before they go off to college.

Grieving for a family member or friend is socially acceptable, and people generally don’t tell us to “just get over it” or offer to find a new substitute like they do with pets.

Euthanasia is usually the end-of-life choice for older pets, and that’s also something outside the “normal” human experience, because that just isn’t done with humans.

There’s also the ‘love hormone’ known as oxytocin, which is released when humans stare into each other’s eyes, or when parents look at their children. A 2015 study found that dogs and humans both experience increased oxytocin levels when they look into each others eyes.

“I’m sure if you did the study with other animals it would be the same,” says Cori Bussolari, a psychologist at the University of San Francisco, reasoned.

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