If anyone had told me ten years ago that narcissistic abuse had a spiritual element to it, I would have waved them off as senseless.
How could anyone in their right mind ever believe that the systematic devastation of another person’s life could possibly contain a hint of spirituality?
Narcissistic abuse is deliberately inflicted by someone you love and it targets you for who you are, the very ESSENCE of you. It is a long-term, calculated campaign to make you feel unworthy and despise yourself, and to have you believe other people view you in the same light.
The narcissistic abuser wants you to believe that no one cares about you, and that no one should care about you, because you, as a person, are not loveable, have no redeeming qualities, and are a waste of space and time.
They take advantage of your forgiving personality and repeatedly exploit your fear of abandonment in order to make you more dependent on them and more likely to stay attached to them – despite (or rather, paradoxically, because of) the misery you find yourself in.
Narcissistic abuse, by all accounts, is soul-crushing. That is why the trauma is so difficult to overcome. We are left feeling so utterly helpless and hopeless in our spirit. We feel we lack the spiritual strength to stand up for ourselves and escape our misery, so we instead keep digging ourselves into a deeper spiritual hole.
How could any of that be considered spiritual?
Had I not finally detached from that relationship and made the daily commitment to myself, I would have never discovered the answer.
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