Do you know a smart person who rigidly holds on to an irrational belief system? It could be something they “have” to do for no good reason. Or, it could be feeling angry with other people whom they don’t even know. Or, it could be feeling scared whenever anything changes. If you know someone like that, you know how frustrating it can be to understand how that person’s brain works — even if it’s your own.
Perhaps I can shed some light on it.
From childhood on, we all seek a set of rules which help us navigate the world we live in. It’s time to wake up, get dressed, go to work, come home, have dinner, etc., etc. Once the rules are in place, we don’t have to think all the time. We just follow the rules. Life is calm. Life is certain.
When the rules collapse, however, (i.e., you lose your job) you must think about a whole lot of things. “What do I do now? How should I do it? Whom should I speak to?” So much to figure out!
It’s then that you realize that so much thinking can become tiresome. Hence, you may become openly rebellious, “I’m not taking this crap anymore.” Or you may silently rebel, “Too much change! I want my old life back!”
You want to solve your problem. You want predictability. You want relief from the chaos swirling around in your head. You crave a new set of rules to help you manage your world without a constant need to evaluate, analyze, deliberate, study, and enmesh yourself in all this tiring thinking.
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