“Before you assume, learn. Before you judge, understand. Before you hurt, feel. Before you say, think.” ~Unknown
There we were on a Saturday afternoon doing such benign things as running errands at Costco, Trader Joes, and the post office. Excitement galore.
Yet, it would be a day I came to a major realization, understanding something I already knew in theory but wasn’t putting into practice.
Here’s the realization: Mind reading in relationships leads to confusion, resentment, frustration, and name-calling.
I’m not talking about psychic mind reading either! I’m referring to the kind of mind reading that you likely do every day, all the time, likely without even realizing it.
Mind reading is when you assume you know what another person is thinking or feeling without direct evidence. In other words, you’re assuming their thoughts, beliefs, and intentions (and you’re usually assuming the worst).
Big mistake.
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Hazel’s comment:
This reminds me of an incident last week. Nothing sinister but I had to go to the bathroom and when I returned there was no sign of the tea-towel I'd been drying up with.
OH says “I thought you’d finished with it and put it in the washing basket.”
Assumptions.
I have got past the finger pointing as something similar happens at least once a week, more often if he’s doing it to wind me up.
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