Friday 25 January 2019

How to Be Loving Toward Yourself When You Actually Don’t Love Yourself

a post by Margarita Tartakovsky for the World of Psychology blog


Photo by Bart LaRue on Unsplash

You don’t feel great about yourself, so you assume you shouldn’t treat yourself great either.

Maybe you hate your body. Maybe you think you have way too many flaws. Maybe you’re mad at yourself because you have a knack for making mistakes when it really matters. Maybe you’re mad that you’ve already abandoned your New Year’s resolutions. Maybe you’re mad about a poor decision you made—last week or years ago. Maybe you think you’re broken and well beyond repair.

But being loving toward yourself doesn’t require being in love with yourself, said Stefani Reinold, MD, a board-certified psychiatrist, perinatal mental health expert, and eating disorders specialist with a singular mission to help women live their best life, free from self-limiting beliefs.

That is, you don’t have to be in love with “who you are, what you look like, or what you have,” Dr. Reinold said.

“So many individuals misunderstand self-care and self-love to mean that we either have to be lustfully in awe of every part of ourselves or that we have to be a bold, fierce, independent, assertive version of ourselves.”

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