Wednesday 11 September 2019

Married Doesn’t Mean Codependent: 10 Ways to Maintain Autonomy

a post by Julia Nowland for YourTango.com [via World of Psychology]



You can be strong on your own.

If you’re wondering whether you’re codependent or believe that you’re in a codependent relationship, then it’s time to recognize why you’re doing the codependent behavior and put a stop to it.

Asking yourself, “Am I codependent?” means you’ve witnessed choices or actions you made that lead you to believe you’re behaving in an unhealthy manner. And now you want to know how to stop being codependent, either to fix your relationship, feel better about yourself, or just be happier and more confident in life overall.

What started out as good intentions can create strain in your relationship. Learning how to recognize and meet your own needs rebalances the harmony and creates more fun, confidence, and spontaneity in your marriage.

When living in a codependent marriage, you didn’t set out to diminish the other parts of yourself and become tunnel-visioned toward the relationship; it happens slowly over time.

Perhaps when dating, you were smitten with your partner and didn’t want to create tension, so you went along with everything. Or at least you didn’t mind so much doing things that you would otherwise prefer not to do.

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