Married Doesn’t Mean Codependent: 10 Ways to Maintain Autonomy

a post by Julia Nowland for YourTango.com [via World of Psychology]



You can be strong on your own.

If you’re wondering whether you’re codependent or believe that you’re in a codependent relationship, then it’s time to recognize why you’re doing the codependent behavior and put a stop to it.

Asking yourself, “Am I codependent?” means you’ve witnessed choices or actions you made that lead you to believe you’re behaving in an unhealthy manner. And now you want to know how to stop being codependent, either to fix your relationship, feel better about yourself, or just be happier and more confident in life overall.

What started out as good intentions can create strain in your relationship. Learning how to recognize and meet your own needs rebalances the harmony and creates more fun, confidence, and spontaneity in your marriage.

When living in a codependent marriage, you didn’t set out to diminish the other parts of yourself and become tunnel-visioned toward the relationship; it happens slowly over time.

Perhaps when dating, you were smitten with your partner and didn’t want to create tension, so you went along with everything. Or at least you didn’t mind so much doing things that you would otherwise prefer not to do.

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Permanently online and permanently procrastinating? The mediating role of Internet use for the effects of trait procrastination on psychological health and well-being

an article by Leonard Reinecke, Adrian Meier, Stefan Aufenanger, Manfred E Beutel, Michael Dreier, Oliver Quiring, Birgit Stark, Klaus Wölfling and Kai W Müller (Johannes Gutenberg University Mainz, Germany) published in New Media & Society Volume 20 Issue 3 (March 2018)

Abstract

A growing number of studies suggest that Internet users frequently utilize online media as “tools for procrastination”. This study thus investigated the relationship between trait procrastination, Internet use, and psychological well-being in a representative sample of N = 1,577 German Internet users.

The results revealed that trait procrastination was associated with an increased use of leisure-related online content and impaired control over Internet use. As a result, Internet users high in trait procrastination showed a higher risk of experiencing negative consequence of Internet use in other life domains. These negative repercussions of insufficiently self-regulated Internet use partially accounted for the correlation between trait procrastination and impaired well-being (i.e. stress, anxiety, and depression)

These findings underline the role of online media as an instrument for dysfunctional task delay among Internet users. Implications of the results are discussed with regard to media use and self-control in general and procrastinatory media use in specific.

Keywords Habit, Internet use, procrastination, self-control, well-being

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The benefits and dangers of enjoyment with social networking websites

an article by Ofir Turel (California State University, Fullerton, USA) and Alexander Serenko (Lakehead University, Ontario, Canada) published in European Journal of Information Systems Volume 21 Issue 5 (September 2012)

Abstract

Information Systems enjoyment has been identified as a desirable phenomenon, because it can drive various aspects of system use.

In this study, we argue that it can also be a key ingredient in the formation of adverse outcomes, such as technology-related addictions, through the positive reinforcement it generates.

We rely on several theoretical mechanisms and, consistent with previous studies, suggest that enjoyment can lead to presumably positive outcomes, such as high engagement. Nevertheless, it can also facilitate the development of a strong habit and reinforce it until it becomes a ‘bad habit’, that can help forming a strong pathological and maladaptive psychological dependency on the use of the IT artifact (i.e., technology addiction).

We test and validate this dual effect of enjoyment, with a data set of 194 social networking website users analysed with SEM techniques. The potential duality of MIS constructs and other implications for research and practice are discussed.

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