Showing posts with label self-victimisation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self-victimisation. Show all posts

Friday, 3 May 2019

How to Take Responsibility for Your Life and Change What Isn't Working

a post by Timothy James for the Tiny Buddha blog


“The man who complains about the way the ball bounces is likely to be the one who dropped it.” ~Lou Holtz

I spent a devastatingly large part of my life trapped, blaming others for my troubles. I felt like I was bumbling around aimlessly and my life was out of my control.

I was working a soul-sucking job, with a huge amount of student debt. I was surrounded by fake, unsupportive friends, in a toxic relationship, and had extremely low self-esteem.

All of this was everyone else’s fault. I didn’t take responsibility for anything in my life that was causing me pain.

I became a victim, and my sorrowful existence felt like too much to handle.

So I entered a nightmarish tailspin and turned to food, drugs, and alcohol to escape the suffering.

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Monday, 26 March 2018

Playing the Victim: How the Victim Mentality is Hindering Your Sobriety

a post by Kelsey Brown for the World of Psychology blog

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Do you often feel hopeless, like you’ve failed so many times that it’s not even worth trying anymore? Do you frequently dwell on all the mistakes you’ve made and all the relationships you’ve lost? Maybe you just feel like your life will never be meaningful so there’s no use trying to be anything or do anything.

If thoughts like this are controlling your life, you may be using self-victimization to cope with issues you feel unable to manage.

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